I had an argument with a female friend the other day and she has a theory that the divorce rate is so high these days because there are more women in the workplace now than in the last few decades.
Before I go any further with this article I want to say that I have no problem with women in the workforce and I’m not trying to start up a controversial post, but at the same time, the argument itself is pretty intriguing.
Is Dual Income The Best Thing?
Back in the day, the man of the house was the breadwinner. The wife would be the stay-at-home-mom, take care of the kids and have supper ready when the husband got home along with all the other stereotypes that feminists hate. With more women in the workforce today, the household chores now have to be split up and there is bound to be more stress on relationships because of it.
If both parties get home at six o’clock in the evening and both are too tired to make supper, what happens? Do they fight about it, or do they just order take out? What about taking the kids to hockey practice or making sure they get to bed on time? What happens if one parent has a rough day at work? Having a dual income definitely has its costs.
In my family my mom is a nurse practitioner and she works long, hard days. My dad, on the other hand, argued that his days were always harder since he is a farmer. Technically he was the stay-at-home dad, but with four sons he had no shortage of help on the farm.
Our household was always busy and since there’s an eight year difference between the oldest brother and myself, we did most of the chores and my parents didn’t have to worry too much about the constant arguing over who was going to do what.
My girlfriend’s family is a totally different scenario. Her mother was a teacher until she had her first child, and from then on she was a stay-at-home mom. Her father was also a teacher, but at some point he began to farm during the summer and teach at the university during the winter (not a bad gig by the way).
Her mother works hard by making sure everyone’s needs are met in the household. I actually get overwhelmed because she rattles off 20 questions at me to make sure I’m fed and comfortable and warm enough and anything else to make sure my stay there is a good one. At the end of the day, this family is very happy one and the marriage has gone on for over 30 years.
Generation Y’s Family Dynamic
Much can be said about women in the workplace but when you take away the stay-at-home parent, the family dynamic has to change. The simple fact is that one parent is no longer spending all day at home making sure everyone’s needs are met. The families where both parents work and still manage to provide the same quality of life as a stay-at-home parent does usually has a pile of added stress in their relationship. How could it not?
This is probably the reason many families these days have one or two kids instead of four or five.
Readers, what do you think? Does today’s working world put stress on the “traditional family”?